Wisdom Paradise

I was always somebody who had many confidence issues as I grew up, from a child, through to adulthood. I firmly believed that I had been dealt a very bad hand of cards and I often became rather down in the dumps. The issues that I had in my life were:

A bald patch the size of a ten pence piece on my head

A problem with my speech known as a stuttering

A weight problem, I was quite fat for my height

I am quite short for a male at five-foot-four

Certain people would take the mickey out of me, and their comments would hurt. I would always make sure they did not see my anger but inside I was crying.

I could not live life this indefinitely and aged 22 I decided to fight back. My quest for a better life began with me reading a lot of literature to do with how to gain confidence and how to increase self-esteem. I was eager to become a success as I wanted to run by own business selling external doors. I had spent far too long offering advice with regards to flyer printing and needed a change.

These were the things I had to take on board:

It is not important what other people think of you, it is what you think that counts

You need to start to like yourself

There are various things about your person, you do not like but which you can not change. It is basically a matter of knowing that there are many other people from all over the world who would love to swap into your shoes; you may think that you are rather unlucky but the truth of the matter is that you are in fact one of the lucky ones.

You need to have respect for yourself

Do not accept second best in life

Be happy

Learn to relax

Treat yourself to some pleasures. This could be some form of massage, aromatherapy or reflexology.

I had managed to achieve a personal happiness by following the advice in the above paragraphs.

It is important that we set ourselves goals in life, these can be short term, over a longer period of one to five years and also lifetime goals. It should not be purely a case of making personal targets – we need to make sure we attain them.

Write down your goals

I have always wanted to be a success and to have a happy life, I am sure this is the same for most people. In the early part of my life I was unable to achieve both of these aims; this was partly because I had a stuttering problem. In my early to mid twenties I decided to attempt to learn about ways in which I could ensure that the future would be a lot better, than what the past had been. I soon began to read literature about these subjects in my quest to improve my life~I soon began to read literature about these subjects in my quest to improve my life}.

I soon realised the importance of setting goals and targets and was hopeful that this could help me to stop stuttering. I thought about what I wanted to be and which course I wanted my life to take. In the end I wrote out 3 different lists which of course including my future goals.

The first list included what I wanted to achieve within the next twelve months. The second list contained what I wanted to achieve within five years and the third list was my lifetime goals – one of which was to own my own company selling composite front doors.

Avoid negative people

There are people out there who try to bring me down. Nasty comments, dirty looks and gossiping were all things that these nasty people would do~Nasty comments, dirty looks and gossiping were all things that these nasty people would do}. They look at me as If I am worthless and some kind of loser. These type of people have caused me many sleepless nights and have had a negative affect on my self-confidence.

I knew that I had to steer well clear from these bad influences; this can however be easier said than done~I knew that I had to steer well clear from these bad influences; this can however be easier said than done}.

I am pleased to report that I have now overcome the speech impediment – life is now far much happier for me.

I also own a business and also work on a part-time basis working along side a business cost reduction specialist.

As you can see life is now so much better for me and I am sure that it could be for you.